Finding the One A Process Model of Mate Selection

Ie selection of a mate may well be the most important personal decision of a lifetime. Not only one's happiness, overall well-being, and productivity (e.g., Ryff & Singer, 2001) but even the very length of one's life can be significantly and profoundly affected by this singular choice (e.g., Selcuk & Ong, 2013). The reality that the world's population is currently ~ ,r mor~an 7 billion and rising (World Bank, 2012) means that at any given ~/ poiR~e there are literally millions of individuals of a suitable age and t C!!::.!-preferred sex from which to choose a mate. Of course, not all potential mates have equal probability of being selected. Still, among the many, how

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